Dab tsi siv los ua qhov kawg rau cov neeg muag khoom tawm tsam tau tshwm sim ntau zaus hauv kev lag luam kev sib tw niaj hnub no: cov neeg sib tw tsis lees paub qhov muaj peev xwm ntawm lawv cov khoom lossis, qhov phem tshaj plaws, ua cov lus tsis tseeb txog koj cov khoom lossis kev pabcuam.

Yuav ua li cas

Yog li koj ua li cas thaum koj qhov kev sib tw yog distorting qhov tseeb thiab koj cov neeg siv khoom zoo li poob rau lub suab?Cov lus teb phem tshaj plaws yog los koom nrog kev sib ntaus sib tua tit-for-tat.

Cov no yog cov lus teb zoo tshaj plaws:

• Ua tib zoo mloog thaum cov neeg siv khoom qhia koj txog cov ntaub ntawv lawv tau kawm los ntawm tus neeg sib tw.Tawm tsam muab cov lus teb tam sim.Tsis txhob xav tias tus neeg siv khoom ntseeg txhua yam uas tus neeg sib tw tau hais.Qee cov neeg siv khoom yuav tab tom nrhiav rau koj cov tshuaj tiv thaiv.Lwm tus yuav tab tom nrhiav kev sib tham kom zoo dua.
• Coj txoj kev siab.Yog tias koj qhov kev sib tw yuav tsum tau mus rau kev sib tw koj cov lus thiab qhia tsis tseeb koj lub peev xwm kom tau txais cov neeg siv khoom txaus siab, qhov ntawd yog qhov qhia tseeb tias koj ua qee yam yog.Lub feeb koj pib badmouthing tus neeg sib tw yog feeb koj pib koom nrog koj tus kheej nrog lawv thiab lawv tus cwj pwm tsis ncaj ncees.Ua tib zoo mloog cov lus tsis tseeb los ntawm tus neeg sib tw, tom qab ntawd teb rau lawv hauv cov ncauj lus kom ntxaws, kev tshaj lij nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm cov neeg siv khoom.
• Tsom ntsoov rau koj lub zog.Ib txwm npaj los teb cov lus nug, "Vim li cas peb yuav tsum yuav ntawm koj tshaj lwm tus?"Yog tias koj tuaj yeem ua kom pom tseeb hauv koj cov lus teb, koj yuav tsis tas txhawj txog kev rov qab los ntawm cov neeg sib tw tsis ncaj ncees.Thaum koj cov neeg siv khoom nkag siab txog koj lub zog tshwj xeeb thiab muaj peev xwm, lawv feem ntau yuav tsis cuam tshuam los ntawm cov neeg sib tw.
• Hloov kev sib tham mus rau qhov kev paub uas tus neeg siv khoom tau muaj nrog koj.Txhawb kom nws saib ze rau ntawm cov ntaub ntawv teev tseg uas koj tau tsim lawm.Yog tias koj tab tom tham nrog tus neeg yuav khoom, qhia lawv txog koj txoj kev vam meej koom tes nrog lwm tus neeg siv khoom zoo thiab siv cov kev daws teeb meem.Sim sau cov piv txwv ntawm cov teeb meem tseem ceeb uas lub zeem muag ua tsis tiav los xav tias koj tuaj yeem daws tau rau lawv.
• Tsis txhob tso tseg, txawm tias koj poob tus neeg siv khoom.Qee zaum koj ua tej yam uas yog txoj hauv kev thiab cov neeg siv khoom tseem mus nrog tus neeg sib tw.Tsis txhob xav tias koj tau poob nws mus ib txhis, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias tus neeg siv khoom tawm mus vim tias tus neeg sib tw tsis muaj tseeb.Cov neeg siv khoom yuav paub tias lawv tau ua yuam kev nyob rau lub sijhawm.Tsis txhob ua rau lawv xav tias lawv yuav tsum rov qab los nrog lawv tus Tsov tus tw ntawm lawv ob txhais ceg.Txuas ntxiv kom nyob twj ywm, thiab koj yuav ua rau kev hloov pauv yooj yim dua.

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