Thaum koj ua haujlwm nrog cov neeg siv khoom, koj cia siab tias koj yuav ua haujlwm nrog tus cranky ib zaug.Tab sis xyoo no tau tsim ntau qhov tsis zoo - thiab koj yuav ntsib ntau dua crankiness dua puas tau.

Yog li nws tseem ceeb dua puas tau npaj los ua haujlwm nrog cov neeg siv khoom ntxhov siab, tsis zoo.

"Muaj ntau ntawm peb yuav tsum tau ua haujlwm ntxiv los txhawb peb tus kheej thiab coj lub zog zoo los ua haujlwm."McLeod hais tias."Thaum koj nthuav tawm tag nrho cov kev txaus siab uas koj tuaj yeem ua tau, thiab lwm tus neeg ua rau muaj kev phom sij rau saum huab cua, nws tuaj yeem hnov ​​​​zoo li kev ua phem rau koj lub dag zog."

Thaum ua haujlwm nrog cov neeg siv khoom tsis zoo (lossis cov npoj yaig), koj tseem xav kho lawv cov teeb meem ua ntej thiab qhov tseem ceeb.Tab sis koj tuaj yeem ua ob peb kauj ruam los pab tig qhov xwm txheej tsis zoo rau hauv qhov zoo.

Sim cov plaub tactics ntawm McLeod:

1. Tsis pom zoo (lossis tsis pom zoo)

Koj tsis tas yuav hno lossis muab cov lus hais xws li "uh-ha" hauv kev pom zoo raws li lawv rant txog qhov phem npaum li cas.Thiab koj tsis xav tsis pom zoo, ib yam, vim tias qhov ntawd tuaj yeem hloov pauv.

Xwb, tsom ntsoov rau qhov teeb meem ntawm tes thiab kev daws teeb meem uas koj tuaj yeem muab tau.Qhia rau cov neeg siv khoom tsis zoo nrog cov lus zoo xws li, "Peb tuaj yeem saib xyuas qhov no," "Koj tau coj qhov no mus rau tus neeg raug," lossis "Kuv paub tias peb tuaj yeem ua li cas los saib xyuas qhov no tam sim ntawd."

2. Xyaum ua siab ntev

Txawm hais tias koj tsis pom zoo lossis tsis pom zoo, koj yuav xav qhia qee qhov kev nkag siab nrog cov neeg tsis zoo.Qhov laj thawj loj tshaj plaws yog koj tsuas yog tsis tuaj yeem paub qhov kev tawm tsam lawv yuav muaj.Nws tuaj yeem tsis muaj dab tsi lossis nws tuaj yeem yog nyiaj txiag, teeb meem kev saib xyuas lossis teeb meem kev noj qab haus huv.Qhov teeb meem tsis zoo rau cov neeg tuaj yeem yog qhov me me rau koj, tab sis nws tuaj yeem yog cov quav cab uas tawg cov ntxhuav rov qab rau lawv.

Yog li qhia qee qhov kev nkag siab nrog cov lus xws li, "Qhov ntawd tuaj yeem ua rau ntxhov siab," "Kuv thov txim koj tau ua rau qhov no" lossis "Kuv xav tias ntau tus neeg yuav xav li ntawd."Tom qab ntawd koj yuav xav txav mus rau cov kev daws teeb meem kom tsis txhob muaj qhov tsis zoo ntxiv.

3. Redirect lub zog

Ib yam uas koj xav kom zam thaum ua haujlwm nrog cov neeg tsis zoo yog cia lawv qhov tsis zoo rau koj tus cwj pwm - tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau lwm tus neeg siv khoom koj yuav pab thiab cov npoj yaig koj yuav ntsib nrog.

Yog li McLeod qhia Aikido, kev xyaum ua yeeb yam.Lub tswv yim yog thaum raug tawm tsam koj tsis txhob thawb ncaj qha rov qab.Hloov chaw, koj coj tus yeeb ncuab lub zog rau lwm qhov.

Hauv kev ua haujlwm, koj tuaj yeem hloov pauv qhov tsis zoo los ntawm kev coj cov neeg siv khoom mus rau cov peev txheej lossis kev ua haujlwm uas txhawb nqa lawv.Piv txwv li, kho qhov teeb meem ces muab cov peev txheej xws li lub vev xaib, ntawv dawb lossis cov ntawv qhia uas yuav pab lawv zam qhov teeb meem lossis txhim kho qee yam ntawm kev ua haujlwm lossis lub neej.

4. Rov kho koj lub siab

Nws yuav yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom paub tseeb tias koj tsis txhob cia ntau qhov tsis zoo cuam tshuam rau koj qhov kev xav.McLeod qhia koj ua ib qho taw qhia rau "ncig koj tus kheej nrog cov neeg uas coj koj los, uas pom cov nyiaj hauv ob sab phlu, thiab ua kom koj tsom ntsoov rau qhov tseem ceeb."

Tshawb xyuas nrog cov npoj yaig, phooj ywg lossis cov neeg hauv tsev neeg uas zoo.Los yog nyeem cov lus txhawb siab, mloog cov podcasts zoo lossis saib cov yeeb yaj kiab txhawb siab.

Thiab thaum kawg ntawm hnub ua hauj lwm, cais koj tus kheej ntawm nws.Txawm hais tias koj ua haujlwm hauv chaw ua haujlwm lossis los ntawm tsev, lub cev taug kev deb ntawm kev ua haujlwm thiab kev paub tsis zoo thiab lub hlwb cia nws mus.

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